I'm of the opinion if you have kids of your own, you can't afford to be a kid yourself anymore. If you bring them into this world, you better damn well be ready to take care of them. That means securing your own future and working your ass off to keep your grades straight BEFORE it becomes a problem. I don't think it's "trashing" a kid to have that expectation of them. And it's not limited to football players, it's any kid in HS. Excuses are easy to make, taking responsibility for your own actions is hard.