Guyssss What do i do? (Advice to the lovelorn.)

**VolinArizona** · 10-30-2007, 01:50 AM

I'm a bit buzzed, so I might air out a little dirty laundry.

2 1/2 years ago I moved here (Flag) with my g/f and am working at a TV station. In the last 10 months, 3 other advertising people quit, and at this moment, I control every contract on the air (big money). However, I only took this job to eventually get back to WBIR CHannel 10 in Knoxville (you know it, you love it). My current station is under the same ownership as Channel 10. THey have an opening for my job at 10 News 2 (channel 11, I think)

Now, as you could tell from deduction, me and my g/f of 5 1/2 years broke up. Which means FLagstaff means nothing to me, and I want a social life that includes tons of women (I'm not an ugly dude).

Do I get out of this town and take a pay cut for a year or 2, or stay in a miserable situation and save a ton of money? Note: my ex and I are still very close.

I have no idea what to do. I love Knoxville and want to be back, but I still feel like I should effing stay and help my ex grow up. UGHHHHHH.

The Dude · 10-30-2007, 02:02 AM

Well, Abby Hamm has left Channel 10, so that's one mark against coming back.

I'd stay and save money, but you seem hung up on her, so leaving may be the best thing for you, honestly, just to help you move on. Can't you continue with life in AZ without being with her? Are you wanting to get back with her?

**VolinArizona** · 10-30-2007, 02:13 AM

I want to get back with her in a couple years, when she's more mature. RIght now, I want to play the game and meet tons of new people. In Flag, that's hard. Tons of annoying hippies. I'm not a hick, but I like Knoxville's way of life more than Flag's. If I can do advertising sales in Flag, where 99% of the people are opposite of me, I can make a killing in Knoxville. Like I said, I'd basically be a shoe in for the job in Knox, and would move up quickly. I'm good at my job.

Being here is hard, because I still want to be a good friend, but it taxes me. I have tons and tons of friends in Knoxville.

I've seriously never been this confused in my entire life.

XtennesseeX · 10-30-2007, 02:22 AM

Make a list of all the pros and cons of living in Knox, and Flagstaff. Which ever one has the most pros, and least cons is the right choice.

Ok, not that easy, but it may help.

The Dude · 10-30-2007, 02:26 AM

Just talking man-to-man, you're an idiot if you wait for her. Realize you're not getting back together, go find another girl or girls and move on, imo.

I'd leave if you don't think you'll find someone there, unless you're okay with abstinence for the next two years in exchange for more money. But if you stay and don't meet another girl, this is dangerous because without someone, you're just going to end up waiting for your ex to grow up, which is again, flat out stupid and a waste of your life.

Either way good luck.

XtennesseeX · 10-30-2007, 02:28 AM

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Originally Posted by The Dude

Just talking man-to-man, you're an idiot if you wait for her. Realize you're not getting back together, go find another girl or girls and move on, imo.

Agree 100% with this.

**VolinArizona** · 10-30-2007, 02:45 AM

Thank you - you affirmed what my best friend said. My ex and I agreed we both need to grow by ourselves before we ever think of moving forward together. As much as I worry about her, I need to worry about me. #1. If it's meant to be, we'll find each other later. I need to worry about me.

Plus, Knoxville is about half as expensive as Flag, so a pay cut wouldn't be as dramatic.

Folks, I bet I'll be back in 3 months or less.

**USAF_Vol** · 10-30-2007, 06:25 AM

Go to Knoxville.

superdave1984 · 10-30-2007, 08:12 AM

Happines is under rated. So is home.

**Lexvol** · 10-30-2007, 08:14 AM

I would get beyond buzzed before I made such an important decision. Get piss drunk, and then see how you feel about the situation. Then I would call her sister.

myrobbins7 · 10-30-2007, 08:17 AM

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Originally Posted by Lexvol

I would get beyond buzzed before I made such an important decision. Get piss drunk, and then see how you feel about the situation. Then I would call her sister.

LOL!!!!!

myrobbins7 · 10-30-2007, 08:19 AM

VIA, Do what your heart tells ya, just always remember, theres no place like home. Good Luck bro..

utfantilidie · 10-30-2007, 08:55 AM

My 2 cents.

#1.Take the job in Knoxville.
#2.Enroll at UT and start taking a class or two towards your masters degree, this helps your profession and social life.
#3.Don't let the ex dictate where you live
or other words control your life
#4.Do these things while you are still young and can afford to, not having to worry about financial burden raising children,etc.
#5.Good luck VIA.

volwindy · 10-30-2007, 09:48 AM

Man I feel sorry for the girls that you date in between. "Hey I'm just stringing you along until my ex and myself grow up then I'm leaving you". Oh that's really going to go over well with the females.

utvolpj · 10-30-2007, 10:08 AM

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Originally Posted by volwindy

Man I feel sorry for the girls that you date in between. "Hey I'm just stringing you along until my ex and myself grow up then I'm leaving you". Oh that's really going to go over well with the females.

That's why you don't tell them things like that

VIA, I was in the same position about 2 years ago. I moved here to VA and really couldn't be happier. It won't be easy for a few months but it will get better. It's not really your job to help her grow up but moving away may be the best way for that to happen. Good luck but I really recommend doing what will make you happy in the long run rather than her.