We got to put a stop to the bullying!

[Slydell]

You never know what pain and suffering another person goes through. There is no way to get in their skin to feel the physical or emotional pain. On a side note, no one could have a clue what they would do under those circumstances. No one. Until it is your time in the barrel. There is no way to tell how much anyone has fought or what they have fought. Anyone thinking otherwise is delusional.

[golfballs]

It's horrible. This same thing happened to a family friend a couple weeks ago in California.
Granite Bay teen who committed suicide was bullied for being gay - Sacramento News - Local and Breaking Sacramento News | Sacramento Bee

[golfballs]

Originally Posted by Coach Grizz

Very very very sad. Everyone please pray for his parents, my grandmother told me that there is nothing harder than burying your own child. I hate that this young man ended his own life because of a few @$$holes. I agree at some point in time you've got to stand up and fight for yourself. But some kids are so tender hearted they won't fight and don't know how to fight. The parents of the kid getting bullied need to keep a closer eye on their get involved. I was bullied too, my parents to this day don't know I was bullied because I kept it inside and that's not a good place to keep it. I didnt think about suicide because I didn't know anything about that. But I felt it was no end to that crap. But eventually everyone GREW UP and as I got older I brush it off my shoulders.

Nice post.

[golfballs]

For a lot of kids, standing up for yourself is easier said than done. I thought the last sentence of that article was pretty poignant:

"A bully might say something and forget about it in 10 seconds," he said. "But people like Jeff never forget those words."

[utvolpj]

Originally Posted by golfballs03

For a lot of kids, standing up for yourself is easier said than done. I thought the last sentence of that article was pretty poignant:

"A bully might say something and forget about it in 10 seconds," he said. "But people like Jeff never forget those words."

also shows homosexual slurs shouldn't be flippantly used in every day talk. Things like "that's gay", "you're a ...", etc actually do mean something when it always has a negative value attached

some fight back and some internalize (I've done both) but neither of those solutions really help.

[bluetickhound16]

Originally Posted by volfan51128

Heres something to add to this. some people will probably say, "oh he was gay and couldn't have stood up for himself." Others will say he is more like a girl, etc. I'll tell you this, when I was younger aroud the age of 12-13, I was picking on this girl on the bus one day and did this for about a week. i was just joking with her and didn't know she was taking things the wrong way...One day she hauled off and slapped the **** out of me and kicked me in the balls. needless to say, I never picked on her again!

So... How long y'all been married now??!?

[kev20]

Originally Posted by Tennbleedsorange

I have taught my kids to stand up for themselves, but say you have a kid that has it all going for him and somebody comes to fight(at school)Because your kid talked back. The bully hits your kid and he fights back and breaks the bullys nose a month before he is to graduate. Due to the injury he caused is charged with aggravated assault,he now has a criminal record due to us not trying to stop the bullying. Fighting is no longer just a suspension like it was when i was growing up?
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self defense, IMO

[VOLatile]

The parents of bullies are to be blamed just as much as the bullies themselves. Teach your kids acceptance.

[Tennbleedsorange]

Originally Posted by VOLatile

The parents of bullies are to be blamed just as much as the bullies themselves. Teach your kids acceptance.

I agree with this,but some kids do stray away from what they are taught.The world would be a better place if people would take the time to raise kids the right way.Instead of putting them in front of the tv or a video game.
Posted via VolNation MobileJust a quick update.The mother has filed suit against the school because some teachers knew and have even made fun of the boy.I do have a problem wit this. I dont know all the facts but it sounds to me like she is trying to get rich off her sons death.Unless she just found this info out from the boys friends.If she did know, what kind of parent lets it go on.I would have already been to the school and took care of this.I honestly hope this woman was aware of this before his death. I would not be able to live with myself knowing I might have been able to prevent my childs death.

[Coach Grizz]

Originally Posted by rocky top 1

Some of you sound like the"good ole boys"! I agree bullying has been around forever and it's not going anywhere because damn it makes us feel good to call people names or demean them and I feel like a very powerful person if I push a girl up against the locker or make fun of her in class or write things about her even if they aren't true. That's what it's all about me feeling good and powerful. Really? really? Sounds to me like the bully
didn't fall far from the tree if you know what
I mean. Where do you think kids learn these
attitudes and think that this king of behavior
is acceptable? HOME of course. Let's face
it Bullying is accepted in the "real man's"
world and most of these statements on this
message board prove it. Just stand up for
yourself! Fight it out and they will leave you
alone! What we did years ago doesn't work
today and yes girls are different from boys
with the bullying but NO child should be
afraid to go to school or build a wall around
themselves that says "I don't care it doesn't
bother me" because deep down it does.
When it gets to be too much to bear then
they think the thing to do is die because they
see it every day on TV and at the movies.
Something about it being forever just doesn't
click. My granddaughter has experienced
bullying because she stopped playing sports
and went in another direction. She has had
a hard time but with a good solid support
group she is good. STOP BULLYING
period. ALL of it!

Good post.

[Coach Grizz]

Originally Posted by Burhead

Not to be insensitive but to kill yourself over being bullied is pretty weak. Everyone that has ever lived has been bullied at some point. If you let that drive you to the point of deciding to kill yourself I don't think there was any hope for him.

Some kids just don't have it in them to fight. You never know how a person feels or what they are going through unless you have been in their shoes. Most bullies bully because they have issues at home and they take it out on "weak" kids.

[volfanjustin]

Originally Posted by Coach Grizz

Some kids just don't have it in them to fight. You never know how a person feels or what they are going through unless you have been in their shoes. Most bullies bully because they have issues at home and they take it out on "weak" kids.

Most kids that bully, bully because they are kids and that's what kids do. We are such a weak society now and want to legislate everything that makes us feel uncomfortable. These kids kill themselves because this current generation is being raised as a bunch of wimps. I truly hate that it came to this with this kid, I feel for his family and wish he had handled it differently.

[golfballs]

Originally Posted by volfanjustin

Most kids that bully, bully because they are kids and that's what kids do. We are such a weak society now and want to legislate everything that makes us feel uncomfortable. These kids kill themselves because this current generation is being raised as a bunch of wimps. I truly hate that it came to this with this kid, I feel for his family and wish he had handled it differently.

You are clueless.

[volfanjustin]

Originally Posted by golfballs03

You are clueless.

Oh please, give it a rest. These kids are brought up to be such pansies now. And anyone who wants all this legislation passed to stop the bullying are pansies too. Bullying is as old as time, as the way to end it is to. Punch a bully in the mouth and they will stop 99.9999% of the time.

[utvolpj]

Originally Posted by volfanjustin

Bullying is as old as time

doesn't make it right. Maybe people should raise their children better? Nah, only solution is

Originally Posted by volfanjustin

Punch a bully in the mouth and they will stop 99.9999% of the time.

hooray for more violence